International Day of the Girl

This is a fashion blog after all, but i have been extremely reluctant to blog or even tweet about anything that isn't of grave importance...at least to me. Being in this heightened state of awareness is emotional draining and physically exhausting and maybe one day i will blog again about the fun things in life but for now I speak my piece.

Today is the first ever  International Day of the Girl; and i thought I would mark it with 2 stories.

1. 14 year old Pakistani girl shot in the head by the Taliban for being a feminist blogger.  She expressed her concerns over the Taliban's movement to crackdown on education and basic civil rights of girls.....Education is power.
2. The Connecticut supreme court overturned the rape of a disabled 26 year old woman who cannot speak and is only able to move her right index finger. The initial guilty verdict was overturned because in Connecticut; women are presumed to be in a constant state of consent unless they explicitly state otherwise. No force, no bruise, no rape?

The F Series: be your prepubescent self

The Cycle of Life

Prepubescent; 

The world is your oyster.

The sky is the limit. 

When I grow up I want to be a doctor and a movie star and a singer and a pilot. 

Kids dream big.

Kids say the darnedest things.

Here comes the awkward stage.

Your gender becomes your first identity.

You discover the double standard, the glass ceiling.

Loud whispers; "know your place" , "be realistic".

I can't stand out,  I don't want everyone looking at me.

You see your place and you take it, you stay there.

Its not so bad to blend in.

Everyone else is doing it.

Its the pleasing stage of life.

My goal is to be palatable..... for others

Your voice goes underground and stays there 

Holding yourself back makes others comfortable.

Don't be too smart. 

Don't be too ambitious its intimidating.

Be independent but not too independent....you know what I mean?.

Is it compromise when I am doing all the changing?

Years pass and you being to wonder, Who Am I? 

You do not know the scarifices I have made for you!!

"For who? for me? when? how? "

I need to find myself? 

Am I  proud of  what I have become?
Lose your voice, lose yourself. 

10 Things You Should Do Before Settling Down

Whether you’re at that age where you’re just starting to think about marriage or are as single as the Beyonce song (hands up in the air), there are certain things we think every woman should do before walking down the aisle. Here are 10 of them—what’s yours?

 

1. Find a job you love and kick ass at it

Once you’re married and have kids, switching your career becomes a lot harder. Figure out what your passion is now, while you’re young and only have yourself to worry about, and just go for it. Don’t hold back. When you do find a job you love, be the very best you can possibly be at it. Nothing feels as rewarding as chasing your dreams and catching them.

 

2. Have a summer fling with a hot foreigner

Go abroad for a summer. Travel to Europe. Meet a hot guy in Paris and totally get swept off your feet. You only live once. And let’s be real, every girl loves a man with an accent whispering sweet nothings into her ear. Who cares if you can’t understand, mon cheri.

 

3. Get your heart broken at least once

Heartache sucks, but you know what they say, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. Failed relationships teach us a thing or two about love and what we do and don’t want in a man. It prepares us for the day Mr. Right comes along and completely changes our life. Without heartache, we can’t truly understand love.

 

4. Stay out all night, just because

You’re young and wild and free, so go out and make the most of it! Party until the sun comes up. Dance until dawn. Embark on a crazy adventure. Drink on the beach. Be completely irresponsible. Before you know it, the opportunity will have passed you by.
 
 5. Set a goal and actually reach it
What’s the one thing you’ve always wanted to accomplish, but maybe never got around to? Jot it down, map out a serious timeline and then get your butt off the couch and work like crazy to make it happen. Setting goals is great and all, but if you never take the initiative to actually achieve them, what’s the point? You’re only wasting your time.

 

6. Learn how to ask for what you want (and get it!)

Whether it’s a raise at work or an edgy new hair color you’ve been dying to try out, speak up for yourself. Stand your ground and be firm about it. The person you’re asking may not like your request, but they’ll sure as hell respect you a lot more for having the balls to ask it.

 

7. Go on a spontaneous trip with the girls

Eventually you’ll have a husband to check in with, kids to find a sitter for and Little League games to attend. So take advantage of your singledom NOW and hit the road with the girls for a last minute jaunt. Drink too much champagne. Stay in a fabulous hotel. Get pampered at the spa. And just gossip like old times. These are the moments you’ll cherish forever.

 

8. Become totally, completely, 100% financially independent

You never know what will happen down the road so before you commit to forever, it’s crucial to learn how to make it own your own. That means no more car insurance payments from dad, or mom taking care of your cell phone bill. It’s just you, your checkbook, and a big smile on your face because you made it. The only person you have to depend on now is yourself. And that’s truly liberating.

 

9. Live in a different state...or country

If you’ve lived in the same place your entire life, get out! Go explore. See the world. Move somewhere completely unexpected while you still can, or rent an apartment in the city you’ve always dreamt of dwelling. Even if it’s just for a short period of time, spread your wings and fly. You’re free as a bird baby, and right now, it’s all about you.

 
10. Fall in love with the person of your dreams 

Maybe you’re anxious to get married or fear you’ll never find anyone better, but please, we’re literally begging you, DON’T SETTLE. Wait for the person who makes your heart beat fast. The one who treats you like a princess and lifts you up because he could never tear you down. But most of all, wait for the one who loves you just as much as you love him back and whom you could never, ever in a million, trillion years picture your life without. Then, settle down.

I was going to emphasize the really important ones, but they are very important and necessary to becoming a completely whole person

Source: TFS

Confidence Dressing: How Clothing Affects the Mind

Great news. Science is one breakthrough closer to understanding the brain chemistry behind your intense interest in clothes, and as it turns out, your outfit may alter how you approach and interact with the world. In preliminary findings from a study published on the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology’s website, subjects who donned white coats that they thought belonged to doctors performed better on tests than those who wore street clothes, or those who thought the coats were associated with artists. Their heightened focus was evident only when subjects actually put on the coat in question (not merely when they were in the same room). It’s no secret that assembling an outfit is like selecting social armor, and that what we wear has power over others (if there weren’t truth to the cliché “lady in red,” designers wouldn’t be making so many scarlet dresses), but this study shows if you have a strong cultural association with a garment, wearing it can affect your cognitive processes. This phenomenon is called enclothed cognition, meaning that if your brain links Miuccia Prada’s or Phoebe Philo’s collections with powerful, intelligent women, you’re likely to take on those attributes when you wear that Prada pleated skirt or Céline jacket.

To explore this theory, Vogue asked several women—in careers ranging from art to e-commerce to politics—what pieces in their closets helped them bring their A-game to work. Though none had appropriated Hillary Clinton’s famed pantsuits, some veered towards popular icons that assert command (“A power outfit for me always begins with a great pair of heels,” says Gabriela Palmieri, senior vice president at Sotheby’s in New York), while others cited correlations between brands and confidence. Lauren Santo Domingo made careful selections when raising funds to launch Moda Operandi, where she is a cofounder and creative director. “We were meeting the best investment funds around the world and I felt that they would take one look at my Peter Pilotto techno print shift with my ironically mismatched Charlotte Olympia clutch and immediately know that I barely broke 500 on my Math SATs,” Santo Domingo says. “I quickly shuffled around my wardrobe and relied on Céline with sprinklings of Acne to get me through these intense meetings without letting my true eclectic fashion roots betray me.” In time, Santo Domingo says she felt strong showcasing her personal style, and eventually saw it as an asset. Model and psychology student Julia Frakes always gravitates toward Prada for interviews, and has a go-to brand for test taking: “I wore Marni when I took my Wechsler exam [designed to measure adult intelligence]. I swear Marni increases one’s self-perceived intelligence levels.” Suffice it to say, Frakes scored a high performance IQ.

So, tell the skeptics: Your closet isn’t frivolous, it contains a myriad of channels to heightened performance, a selection of gateways to the best versions of yourself. As Jonathan Lethem said in his novel You Don’t Love Me Yet: “You can’t be deep without a surface.”

 

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The F series: Intro

I was working on a fashion post for Monday, but then I thought of something else. I have, maybe not many but other passions. I would like to blog about something else on here once in a while. After all, it is about 5 sisters with potentially 5 different views about everything.

fashion rules ??

# fit, fit, fit
# you can be over or under dressed so know  your event--appropriateness is key
#. only one red item pls
# be comfortable (no pinching, ouching, adjusting, taking off ur shoes!!)
# if the "overlay" looks awesome, the" underlay" should be in line with awesome.
# some things cant be bought cheap.
nuff said

Too much?!

I have thought about this topic for the last 4 days and i have come to the conclusion that you can never have too much or rather i dont think i have too much of anything.
as long as each item has a purpose and use then it not too much/many!
example:- 5 of these is too many black shoes
these 5 is not too many black shoes get it ?

so what can i not stop buying :- whatever i like for a season and i cant buy just one. --long necklaces, dresses this season.